No. Not. Never.

I want to tell you about a little consciousness game that my friend Steve Moyer invented and taught me. It has guided me through many mind convolutions and was one of the building blocks of my transformation.

This game boosted my ability to exercise my mind. To create what we want we have to envision it. But usually we speak in the negative so what we are doing is envisioning — or giving the spoken word to — what we don’t want! This game got me out of any mental morass that had me stuck in negativity.

It’s not a board game or anything like that, it’s just a game, sort of like “I spy”. It’s a game you play with friends or a friend and it’s just talking.

The idea is to catch someone out when you hear them saying the terms “no”, “not”, or “never” or any of their derivatives such as don’t, won’t, can’t, etc. When you catch yourself or another saying one of these words, or they catch you, stop for a moment and imagine how to say it another way, how to say what you meant but without the negativity — without the “No.No.Never.”

For example: instead of saying “Real life doesn’t go by schedules”, rephrase it to something like “real life is spontaneous”. Another example: “you never do the dishes” to “I’d love it if you did the dishes”.

This is a powerful exercise! You’ll get to see that as you do it a few times.

You can expect to find resistance in yourself when you do get “caught out” using one of these terms. You’ll tend to try to stick to your original negative phrase. This is because negativity usually sprouts from ego and ego clings to the status quo. Ego also blocks flow and causes resistance to change. Rephrasing the sentence can unlock that resistance. Go through that barrier of resistance anyway and try rephrasing your statement. It takes a bit of thought, but you’ll find doing this exercise is extremely clarifying and often uplifting and even funny. You’ll get better at it if you do it often.

Words are power houses — so are narratives. We create what we speak. When we say what we don’t want, we tend to get more of what we don’t want. This game of No.Not.Never. teaches us to speak about what we do want. that makes our consciousness hear the positive and thus bring about what we do want! Abracadabra means I create what I speak. This game trains us to imagine with more clarity what it is we want. That’s the way consciousness works — it provides what we speak about as well as what resonates from our heart frequency. Much of our speech is habitual and unconscious… and negative. This game makes us aware of that and empowers us to change.

Words and narratives are the charge that either fills or depletes our battery. Words can make us wince or smile, give energy or take it away. Optimism fuels creative synergy. Optimism comes from what we tell ourselves.

You may find resistance to playing this game especially when you first get caught using NNN. You may find yourself clinging to negative emotions behind the statements you’ve made. You may believe that there is no positive way of saying what you want to get across. You may feel emotionally attached to your perception. But give it a try anyway and experiment a bit.

When you rephrase your sentence, you’ll notice a sensation of joy welling in you and a complete turnaround of energy that often will make you laugh! It makes you laugh because you see what you actually want much clearer and it resonates and changes your entire perception.

This game reminds us that we have the ability to choose optimism. Rather than let our words keep us captive to degenerative, ailing thoughts-thoughts that bring distress and strife in our minds and relationships, we are able to change these perceptions, open new vistas that keep us in flow, and causes us to smile at our metamorphosis. I hope you’ll love this game as much as I do and use it often. The narratives we tell ourselves everyday, form our happiness quotient.

In the beginning was the word. Words have power. Notice the No.Not.Never.’s in your speech. Play this game and see your world change.